Before i left for India a lot of people were giving me advice. and advice is a funny thing as Baz Luhrmann said in his famous graduation speech, "Advice is a form of Nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off. painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than its worth". so i had to be careful what advice to take. some people make you feel very exited and tell you a utopian out look. and others tell you are really scary story. then you end up really worried. when giving advice its important to put your emotional bias aside. try and give a balanced and fair assessment of the situation relative to the person your giving it to as well. a lot of the time we give advice based on our own ways of handling a particular situation. remember its the other person who is going to deal with the situation not us! amongst all the advice one thing every single person forgot to mention and prepare me for. was the fact it would be lonely.
the journey started back in england, its all full of excitement and nervousness. packing my stuff to go to another land. it didn't feel like i was moving, felt like i was going on trip or holiday. even when i landed in India and saw all the craziness. only when i reached this shed of a hotel and put my bags in, closed the door and lay down on the bed. did i realise what had happened. i had travelled 1000's of miles away from everyone i know and love. i would actually be alone in a country.
that moment was sad, but its important to remember that its times like this we find out things about ourselves we didn't know. when we step outside our comfort zone and try to sand up straight in a difficult moment. we have to remember that moments are like clouds, once they pass they will never return again. we take each moment as it comes and grow from it.
here is to character building!
Mum said, people don't tell you it's lonely because if they did, you might not go! And miss an opportunity
ReplyDeleteAli, your mum is right, if we told you it would be lonely you would have missed out on a fantastic opportunity. Inshallah you will make friends soon and you won't feel so alone. WE all love you and miss you too. Relax, wind down and then enjoy, phopho xxxxxxx
ReplyDeletewell, i think i was real with you, and told you how terribly lonely it would be. and how each day would be a struggle...
ReplyDeletebut you are right, its all character building. Che dident become Che because he studied medicine. you know too well how Che became Che.
Chris Abraham,
ReplyDeleteHi ali so glad u made it out there safe and sound. there is a real big empty void which was created when you left us. will try and get on here once a week to check out how u are and to stay in touch with you.
Take care of yourself bro.